ANGER MANAGEMENT
Are You Ready to Take Charge of Your Anger?
Are your daily pressures piling up and leading to frustration and anger?- Do you often react strongly to challenges, conflicts, or problems without thinking?
- Have you said things to loved ones in moments of anger that you regret?
- Have you used physical violence during conflicts, thrown things, or punched walls?
- Do you worry that you are losing your grasp on who you are?
You may worry that you are destroying your relationships, your job prospects, and your personal well-being with patterns of angry outbursts. You may fear that you will one day physically harm your family members, friends, or others. Maybe you have already crossed a line and said something you can’t take back. You may feel discouraged and/or disgusted with yourself and wish that you knew how to respond more positively to stress rather than react with rage. In a city of constant demands and stimuli, are you struggling with how to gain and maintain control?
You Don’t Need to Hurt Yourself and Your Loved Ones Anymore
In New York City, many people struggle with the pressure of balancing high-stress careers, family life, and personal wellbeing. We are surrounded by people, ads, cell phones, honking cars and other stimuli at every turn. You may work hard during the day to keep up, to perform well, and to earn a living. Your boss might yell at you or treat you with disrespect. You may then go home to a partner who demands your attention, children who need care and supervision, or a never-ending list of chores. In these intense environments, you might never have a moment to decompress and take time for yourself. It can be challenging to control anger when your days feel like a constant series of frustrations.
When people lack the time for self-care they can find themselves unintentionally erupting at the smallest things. They may find themselves fighting with their partners over what to have for dinner or whose turn it is to walk the dog, when really, they just want a moment alone, a loving gesture, or a respectful comment. People often say or do things that they deeply regret, like yelling, “I hate you!” or “I don’t want to be with you anymore.”
While you can’t erase what has been said or done, you can learn to mange your outbursts. With help, time, and dedication to change, you can learn how to step away from a conflict and consider it rationally. Through anger management counseling, I can teach you how to reclaim the moments of choice between stimulus, trigger, and knee-jerk reaction.
As a native New Yorker, I understand the pressures of the city; I too have struggled with over stimulation. And I know it is possible to change. Through years of experience, I have seen people change the way they express their anger, including myself.
In our sessions, I can teach you tools to develop more awareness, so that you can step back from your anger and discover what you actually want. I can help you differentiate between the anger-inducing triggers and the real sources of turmoil. For example, if you have thrown a plate because you were suddenly enraged by dirty dishes, the underlying issue is probably a bit more complex than the dishes themselves. You may feel like you need help around the house and acknowledgment of your efforts. Whatever your real worry, fear, or frustration might be, through open and honest discussion, I can help you better understand it.
I also work experientially. I have found it’s important to cultivate awareness about your body and what happens with it when you are angry. When we are able to identify the sensations in our body we can possibly use this awareness to help us avoid doing something we may regret. I can also help you learn to calm your body through closing your eyes, breathing deeply, and stepping away.
With my help, you can develop the mental and physical tools necessary for building a centered, balanced space between trigger and reaction. You can learn how to take the time to process tense situations and understand your needs, as well as the needs of those around you. You can learn to take responsibility for your actions, to stop assigning blame, and to treat yourself with patience, love, and respect.
Although you may realize that it’s time to stop the pattern of anger and aggression, you still may have questions or concerns…
Anger Management Sounds Like Too Much Work.
Learning how to navigate your reactions and respond mindfully does take time and effort. Although some people improve very quickly, human beings often need help developing new behaviors and frequent encouragement. It’s much like going to the gym; you may see immediate muscle growth, but you have to exercise to maintain that muscle. Just as we dedicate time and effort to our physical health, we need to do the same for our emotional health.
If doing away with the shame of knee-jerk reactivity and the pain and regret of hurting yourself, your loved ones, and others is important to you, anger management is worth the investment.
Anger Management Counseling Won’t Really Help Me.
If you are ready to make a change, anger management can work for you. For years, I have seen mindfulness and communication tools improve lives. You can learn to choose rather than react.
I Can Take Care of This Myself. I Don’t Need a Stranger’s Help.
If you are here on this page, something is making you upset about the way you are acting. Perhaps you have tried to deal with anger by yourself. Maybe you have made promises to yourself and others that you just couldn’t keep. Because I am removed from the personal turmoil, I can help you see your situation from a new angle. With my training, I can help you find a new solution.
You Can Break Free From Cycles of Anger and Regret
You don’t need to struggle with anger and aggression by yourself. Even if you are at the end of your rope, I can help you climb back up. Why live like a ticking time bomb, afraid of yourself and your emotions? I can teach you solid tools to understand, value, and mange your inner life and frustrations with more grace, understanding, and confidence.
For more information about anger management, I encourage you to explore my blog. You can also contact me at 212.500.0856 or rachel@rachelmcdavid.com.